Final Straw or the Straw that Broke the Camel's Back?
anonymous Asks ...
Is there any way I can use a lie detector test to see if my husband has been cheating on me. I am not sure where to turn for this. He has cheated many times and he is now getting some counseling and is in 12 steps sex addiction group. I found a number on his phone and when I called it it was a woman and she hung up when I started asking questions. I want to believe him but this so usually means that he has another girl. He swears he doesn’t. I don’t know what to believe. I made him get help and he seems like he is really trying but my ability to trust him is totally damaged. I believe if I could have a way to know for sure in this instance if he was lying to me again or if it was the truth then I would know if I should stay or if this was the final straw.
Jim LaPierre Says ...
Sorry - no way to get a lie detector test. Time to be true to yourself. You don't trust him and with good reason. You probably feel like you have so much invested that you don't want to quit now...but all signs point to he's cheating and regardless of what he's doing to get help or not...what are you doing for you? If you're totally honest with yourself, are you hurting, angry, feeling betrayed? Of course you are. I simply want to encourage you to be 100$ honest with yourself - listen to your gut and do what it tells you. You deserve someone you can trust and being in denial undermines your ability to trust you.