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It's Your Life

  • anonymous Asks ...
    anonymous

    What does it mean if I have no motivation or drive to achieve anything? All my friends are out trying to start their real lives and I just can’t find the energy to play the game and do it. To get a job would mean running around playing the game and sitting through tedious interviews pretending to want something I really don’t. I am not depressed…I just don’t care. I am now working full time at a gas station and I kind of like it because there’s no pretension or BS. I am trying to pretend that I do care, especially for my parents who I think would like to see me making a bit more of an effort, but it really all seems so pointless. Is there something wrong with me to not care about getting ahead? I feel like since I went to college I am supposed to try to get a ‘good job’.

  • Raffi Bilek Says ...
    Raffi Bilek

    Sorry, I thought I had replied to this already but it seems the reply didn't go through.

    Basically, it depends on whether you are happy and functional. That is to say, if you like your life and don't feel the need to shoot for more, maybe there's no reason to. However, if you're happy with your life because you are not in touch with reality - e.g., you can't really pay your bills but you don't really care - then yes, you probably have a problem on your hands.

    Generally people are happy when they are using their skills and talents. If you are a bright guy working at a gas station for a living, it may be hard to believe that you're really happy. But if you feel you are using yourself to the best of your ability, I don't see why it should matter what your parents want or what your friends are doing.

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