Fine line in porn usage: Addict or Insensitive Jerk?

Thank you for writing. Your husband's behavior certainly shows great insensitivity to you and is disrespectful to your marriage. Does he identify this as something he wants to stop but cannot or does he simply apologize and repeat the behavior?

Internet & pornography addictions are a problem for many but I favor a more simplistic and pragmatic view, which is that selfish men seek instant gratification and excitement through porn cams and interactions with women who covet credit card numbers. I encourage you to share how his behavior impacts you emotionally and what your expectations are going forward. I assume that what's already occurred undermines your ability to trust him. The biggest piece of advice I give is to listen to your intuition and act on it. As to what you should do for yourself...that depends entirely on what your intuition tells you and on what you want. If you want your marriage to work and see hope for it I encourage you to explore options in couples counseling. As a side note, his use of pornography is in no way a reflection of you or his satisfaction with your sex life. Sometimes men act like little boys. Good luck!