LIving with an addict, what about the children?

Forgive me here, but children often gives us pause to think about things that we would accept for ourselves, but not for our children.  I really want to back you up a step and ask you to ask yourself..."why do I accept this behavior from my partner"?  It sounds as if you think this could be a bad situation for your children, what about for you?  Children's first memory can be anywhere from toddler age to age 10 (usually if there is trauma, it is older rather than younger).  Your children will look to you to see whether or not you see certain behaviors as acceptable.  Just because someone isn't belligerent when they drink does not mean the drinking is not problematic.  You have to ask yourself what type of relationship this is?  Healthy or unhealthy?  If you have doubts, attend an Al-anon meeting in your area or seek out a counselor to talk to.  The longer you are in this situation, the harder it will be to get out.  Best wishes to you!