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  • anonymous Asks ...

    Is there any point in forgiving someone from my past who really hurt me even though I do not think I will ever see this person again. I am sorry for not wanting to give you any details about what happened but I prefer to keep these private. Suffice to say the person was much older than me and he did me very lasting harm. This happened more than 10 years ago and it has haunted me every day since.

  • Dr. Maria Rothenburger Says ...
    Dr. Maria Rothenburger

    Hello Anonymous,

    There is often a misconception about forgiveness; most people believe one needs to approach someone in a physical way and offer peace of some kind. This isn't the case. Forgiveness is about you. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself to release the power that this person has over you. There are a myriad of ways you can begin to forgive the deep pain he has caused you, and I encourage you to seek out those you feel would work for you (a quick Google search should bring up a lot).

    Bottom line: Forgiveness is always worth it.

    Be well,


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